Why Do I Still Have His Number?

Do you still have the number of someone you haven’t spoken to in years? Why does he still have my number? Understanding the reasons behind this can offer insights into your personal relationships and emotional baggage. Here, we’ll explore the potential motivations ranging from personal esteem to curiosity.

Retention for Personal Esteem

Many times, a person retains the number of someone from a past relationship because he or she still finds you valuable. This retention allows him to boast about the type of people he has been with, often showing off profile pictures and messages for others to see. For many, retaining a number is a way to inflate their ego and prove their worth by showcasing past connections.

However, if the person never considered you worthy of a relationship in the first place, he is more likely to have deleted your number. This indicates a lack of interest and understanding that maintaining contact would be a mistake. In such a case, focusing on moving forward without ruminating on the past can be beneficial.

Curiosity and Competitive Drive

He might still retain your number as a way to see how you are doing. This curiosity may stem from a competitive drive to gauge if you are doing better than him. Commonly, he might wonder:

Did you get a better boyfriend or girlfriend? How are your kids? Have you upgraded your lifestyle?

By keeping your number, he can regularly check your profile picture or social media statuses to make these judgments. This behavior suggests a desire to stay informed without direct interaction.

Emotional Healthy Advice

It's important to remember that you cannot control someone else’s actions. If he doesn't disturb you with messages, it’s best to let it go. Some people, like yourself, might find it easier to retain old numbers because of emotional reasons or a sense of laziness. However, holding onto old numbers can sometimes lead to unnecessary emotional distress.

If the numbers belong to someone who has a habit of collecting contacts, it could be for ego reasons or simply as a backup in case they get bored and want to reconnect. This behavior might also indicate a need to feel needed or wanted. In such cases, the best course of action is often to block them. Blocking can help you avoid potential misunderstandings or unwanted contact.

Lastly, as the saying goes, “Don’t sweat the small stuff”. Retaining old numbers can sometimes eat away at your peace of mind. Learning to let go of these small issues can contribute positively to your overall well-being.