When to Address Your Doctor as 'Doctor' and Why It Matters

Addressing your healthcare provider with the appropriate title not only sets a tone of respect but also fosters a better doctor-patient relationship. As a seasoned medical professional, I strongly recommend referring to the doctors you come into contact with as 'Doctor.' It is customary and appropriate to address a physician with their professional title, and many healthcare practitioners will encourage you to do so as a sign of respect.

The Importance of Using the Doctor Title

It's a mystery to me why some medical practitioners take it upon themselves to bypass formal titles and instead address patients by their first names or condescending terms like 'sweetie' or 'honey.' Whether you are a casual patient or a long-term health care counterpart, it is essential to use the appropriate title 'Doctor' unless they specifically request otherwise. This forms a personal connection but doesn't denigrate the professional standing and expertise of the medical personnel.

While some healthcare professionals may use first names as a show of personal connection or familiarity, it's important to recognize that not all patients are comfortable with such informality. For instance, addressing an elderly patient who may have had a prominent career as 'Doris' patronizingly can be incredibly belittling and disrespectful. Always treat patients with the same measure of respect that you would expect if you were in their shoes.

Options for Professional Titles

There are various options for formal titles in different regions. In the UK and Ireland, for example, a surgeon might be referred to as 'Mr X' or 'Ms X,' depending on the gender. As a healthcare professional, I tend to maintain a certain level of formality with my patients, always using titles such as 'Mr,' 'Mrs,' or 'Miss' according to their preferred preference, and only using first names when invited to do so.

Using a title like 'Doctor' shows that you acknowledge and respect the doctor's years of training, expertise, and professional dedication. You would expect to be called 'Doctor' after years of hard work and extensive education, and it is important to treat every healthcare professional with the same level of respect and courtesy.

Respecting Others' Choices

Not all healthcare providers will insist on being addressed as 'Doctor,' and that's perfectly acceptable. Some may be more comfortable with first names, while others may prefer titles like 'Mr,' 'Mrs,' or 'Miss.' As a general rule, it's best to observe the cues given by the healthcare provider and respect their preference. However, always show a willingness to be called 'Doctor' as a mark of respect.

Exceptions in Military Settings

There are some exceptions to this rule, mainly in military settings where the use of titles like 'sir' or 'ma'am' signals respect and is second nature for many. In these cases, it is important to follow the established customs and protocols.

In other settings, such as a medical check-up, there is no need to feel obligated to use any form of address beyond the matter at hand. During a recent medical check-up, neither the nurse nor the patient felt the need to use any formal title beyond discussing the health issues at hand.

Always remember, the decision to use a title is a choice that should be made with respect for both the healthcare provider and the patient. Addressing someone as 'Doctor' is a sign of respect and can lay the foundation for a trusting and effective doctor-patient relationship.