How Does It Feel to Marry Someone with a High IQ?
Introducing My High IQ Partner
Like many of you, I too found myself married to someone who possesses a genius-level IQ. One of the things that immediately struck me upon our first meeting was her cute, funny, and energetic personality. As I got to know her better, I was continually amazed at her incredibly bright mind. Her ability to make quick connections between ideas, the depth and intelligence of our conversations, and that insightful dry sense of humor left a lasting impression on me.
The Intimidating Yet Endearing Insight
At the beginning, it was somewhat intimidating, as she didn’t accept things just because I said they were true. If I overstated or took an illogical position, she would point it out, often before I even realized. Sometimes, all it took was a look – that look that said, “There’s something you missed.” Knowing how clear and thorough she was in her understanding of a topic, I knew I had to be thorough in my explanations, which I considered a positive aspect of our relationship.
Confronting and Resolving Challenges
Our journey was not without challenges. A brain tumor took away some of her mental agility and much of her language skills, which was ironic considering her command of language. Despite this setback, her insight and understanding remained intact. In many ways, the adversity brought us closer, and I realized that intelligence was a very attractive quality.
Realizing the True Value of Intelligence
A 2015 academic study titled “Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder” highlighted the impact of time on relationships. Initially, I was too intimidated by her intelligence, but over the years, I came to realize that intelligence is a quality that fades far slower than one's appearance. This realization brought a new perspective to our relationship.
Valuing Such Marriages
More than just one’s physical appearance, these marriages with intelligent partners offer numerous advantages. According to various studies and personal experiences, intelligent partners bring a richer, more stimulating dynamic to the relationship. They challenge you, engage you, and keep you on your toes. Moreover, they often possess a stronger sense of independence and individuality, which can be equally appealing.
Overcoming Egos and Insecurities
However, there are challenges. Men are often intimidated by intelligent women, and society sometimes expects men to have or possess the answer to everything. Our egos and insecurities can hinder the benefits of such marriages. To make the most of these relationships, we need to overcome these challenges. This is easier said than done, but with time and effort, it is possible to grow and appreciate our partners fully.
Final Thoughts
Although my relationship with my high IQ spouse has had its ups and downs, the overall experience has been rewarding. Her intelligence has not only contributed to personal and intellectual growth but also added a layer of complexity and richness to our relationship. Marrying and presumably dating an intelligent woman is indeed fantastic. It is a journey that requires patience, understanding, and mutual respect. In the end, it’s worth it.